Friday, May 3, 2013

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

The Scripture Experiment. Life Foundations



http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2013/04/a-sure-foundation?lang=eng
 “Therefore, whoso heareth these sayings of mine and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, [which] built his house upon a rock—

“And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not, for it was founded upon a rock.

“And every one that heareth these sayings of mine and doeth them not shall be likened unto a foolish man, [which] built his house upon the sand—

“And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell, and great was the fall of it.”

Matthew 7:24–27

Building a life foundation at first seemed too big of a project to fit into a weeklong experiment, but as I considered my days and weeks, I found that I do have daily habits that serve as a foundation for how I live/cope and when those habits are ignored or forgotten my life can easily spin out of control. (In a moment I will give an example, because even when my daily habits are in place, life occasionally steps in and messes things up.)

Here is my typical morning routine:

6 a.m.    Prayer

Scripture study

7 a.m.    Household chores

8 a.m.    Exercise

9 a.m.    Shower/breakfast

I consider my day to begin at 9 a.m., because everything before that is pretty nonnegotiable. Looking back, I can’t remember when these patterns started. I do remember years when the scripture study happened during nap time and when I exercised in the evening when my husband came home, but for many years now, this is how I roll. Although, sometimes I exercise at 7 and the household chores are pushed to the end of the day.

This is my housekeeping schedule.

Monday               laundry

Tuesday               bathrooms

Wednesday        vacuum and dust

Thursday             groceries/errands

Friday                    yard work

Saturday              mop floors

Some things, like dinner and dishes, happen every day. And other things, like cleaning light fixtures and wiping out the inside of cupboards, happen rarely. But as long as I make an effort to see that these basics are not neglected, the dust bunnies stay tame. Of course, there were years where laundry was an everyday occurrence.

What does laundry and dust have to do with building a life foundation? Most of us are familiar with the quote:

Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

Does that mean my destiny is laundry and dust? No, it means that because I’ve conquered the laundry and dust I’m free to spend the rest of my day doing the things that I want to do.

My experiment for this week was to use a quiet moment at church to reflect on how I spent my week and what I could have done better.

Here’s an example of a day gone awry. At five p.m. on a Wednesday, the hour I usually think about starting dinner I realized that I hadn’t yet vacuumed. (Remember, this is Wednesday’s chore.) So, I sprinkle carpet fresh all over my house. The smell is horrific and as I vacuum, it only gets worse. I inspect my vacuum and discover a hole in the bag. I worry because I know I won’t be able to sleep with carpet fresh all over my floors and I also know that it’s too late to go to the Oreck store to buy a new bag. So I went to Target and while I’m frowning at their selection of vacuum bags, knowing that not one of them would fit my eight year old Oreck vacuum, I get a call reminding me that I had committed to drive a friend to physical therapy. I bought the most likely looking bag, drove my friend to her appointment, came home, threw a frozen pizza in the oven and looked for tape so I could jerry rig thhe bag and vacuum my carpets. Because of the vacuum emergency, I was late for my writers’ group. And in a bad mood. And more than a little nauseous from the carpet fresh fumes.

Was any of this a sin? No, of course not, but that particular Wednesday needed help. Maybe the wise man built his house upon a rock because rocks can be cared for by a broom. Imagine trying to vacuum a sandy floor. The exercise of considering how I intended to spend my week and how it actually came together will help me going forward to carefully consider how I use my days. And my days are the foundation of my destiny.


Sunday, April 21, 2013

The Scripture Experiment: A Life Chronicle


I want to share with you what I’m calling my Scripture Experiment. I’m taking a conference talk and giving myself a weekly challenge based upon the talk.

The first talk was President Packard’s.
I was touched by his life-long poem and decided to write not a poem, but a chronicle of my life. It surprised me how easily my life fell into these five year chapters. Each five years really did seem to comprise a chapter of my life, although some chapters and years were more eventful than others. It was interesting to look back, review and realize that even though circumstances have changed—I am still, at heart, the person I’ve always been and that the person I was 5, 10, 15, 20 years ago is still here. My body has matured, but so has my spirit and like President Packard, I can’t regret the maturation, because each life chapter and lesson has taught me things I needed to learn.
I love this scripture:
 Isaiah 32:17 And the work of righteousness shall be peace; and the effect of righteousness quietness and assurance for ever.
As I’ve gotten older my life has grown more and more peaceful. My house is quiet. I’m not as busy. My days are my own to live as I choose.
I have a wonderful life, and by looking back at these chapters, I realize that it’s been a wonderful life all along. 

Sunday, April 8, 2012

My Easter Talk

In Shirley Jackson’s The Lottery, the villagers of a small town mid-western town gather together in the square on a beautiful summer’s day. Village children, who have just finished school for the summer, run around collecting stones. They put the stones in their pockets and make a pile in the square. Men gather next, followed by the women. Parents call their children over, and families stand together. Tessie Hutchinson joins her husband and children at the front of the crowd. She’s excited about the lottery—until she draws the slip of paper with the black dot. As the unfortunate lottery winner, she’s marked for death and ultimately stoned by her family, friends and villagers.

There’s horror in Shirley Jackson’s story. In our day and age, we know that the sacrifice of one individual cannot appease the gods or secure a bountiful harvest. Human life is valued, held sacred and protected and we, as a people, in general, as a nation—abhor violence and the shedding of innocent blood. Love, serve and bless—protect not only yourself, but those around you from harm and evil. These are the values I’ve been taught—this is what I have tried to teach my children.

So, in this mortal, earthly frame of mind—I will admit that I cannot understand the atonement of Christ. How can one person suffer and die for the salvation of all humanity? From an intellectual distance—it’s unfathomable to me. But I also accept that I can’t understand everything, that there are many things I have to accept on faith. There are just so many things that I don’t understand how they work—satellites, cell phones, kidneys and hormones—but just because I don’t understand how something works, doesn’t mean that I can’t make use of them--appreciate them and express gratitude for them.

Today I’d like to share with you what I have learned of the atonement of Christ. Please forgive me for sharing a very personal experience. My understanding of the atonement is, if nothing else, personal—as I think it must be for each of us. President Monson said, Every Cinderella has her midnight. Let me tell you about one of mine.

After the doctors told my mother that there was nothing more that they could do, my parents traveled to Mexico for experimental cancer treatments that were illegal in the United States and left me with my twenty-four year old brother, who decided to go to Canada. We lived in rural Washington on a large piece of property. I was fourteen years old and for the first time, went to bed in an empty house. I woke up around two in the morning—the stereo was turned up and blasting in the next room. Let me describe the 1970’s stereo system. It had a turnstile and a receiver and because our system happened to be broken, the receiver had to be manually lifted and placed on the record. This was not a matter of flipping a switch and pressing a button for instantaneous music. No—someone would have had to go into the music chest, select an album, place it on the turnstile, turn on the stereo, lift and place the receiver on the spinning record and then crank up the volume as loud as it could go. In the nearly forty years since, I’ve had many terrifying experiences, but this remains one of the most frightening.

In my midnight, I turned to the only one I knew who could hear me. My Heavenly Father. And for the first time in my life, I came to know the very real, calm and reassurance that only He can give. I felt an outpouring of his love and I held onto that comfort and peace—not only on that dark night, but through the long days of my mother’s illness and subsequent death. Because of that midnight—I know where to turn when things look bleak, chaotic or hopeless and for this—I’m profoundly grateful. How I wish my mom hadn’t suffered. I wish I could have been raised in a happy home free of sickness and suffering—but I’m grateful that at a very young age, I learned where to turn for peace, because when I’m sometimes plagued with doubts and fears—I remember that night when the Lord heard and answered my prayer. I’ve had many midnights since then—times when my faith has been weak, times when I’ve been lonely and scared and each time I’ve recalled the feelings of peace and comfort of that long ago night.

Doubt not fear not. Every experience shall be for our good. Be believing and faithful and rejoice that the Lord not only understands your pain, in His infinite mercy, He is able to transform your suffering into a blessing. How is the Lord able to take our pain and turn it for good? I can’t understand it, but I believe in His power, love and infinite abilities. How is it done? I don’t know, but I know that He will do it for you. Because He has done it for me.

Elder Holland tells us in his beautiful sermon, Broken Things to Mend,

“If you are lonely, please know you can find comfort. If you are discouraged, please know you can find hope. If you are poor in spirit, please know you can be strengthened. If you feel you are broken, please know you can be mended.”

In Nazareth, the narrow road,

That tires the feet and steals the breath,

Passes the place where once abode

The Carpenter of Nazareth.

And up and down the dusty way

The village folk would often wend;

And on the bench, beside Him, lay

Their broken things for Him to mend.

The maiden with the doll she broke,

The woman with the broken chair,

The man with broken plough, or yoke,

Said, “Can you mend it, Carpenter?”

And each received the thing he sought,

In yoke, or plough, or chair, or doll;

The broken thing which each had brought

Returned again a perfect whole.

So, up the hill the long years through,

With heavy step and wistful eye,

The burdened souls their way pursue,

Uttering each the plaintive cry:

“O Carpenter of Nazareth,

This heart, that’s broken past repair,

This life, that’s shattered nigh to death,

Oh, can You mend them, Carpenter?”

And by His kind and ready hand,

His own sweet life is woven through

Our broken lives, until they stand

A New Creation—“all things new.”

“The shattered [substance] of [the] heart,

Desire, ambition, hope, and faith,

Mould Thou into the perfect part,

O, Carpenter of Nazareth!”

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Jared 7-12

Hello Family!
First responding to everyones comments:
Of course I'm having fun! Everything out here in Taiwan is just amazing. Its like you know how life supposedly goes through phases? Like you have the honeymoon phase, then the hate everything phase, then the okay grin and bear it phase, then the endure to the end and make the best. Ever heard that? (We heard it about 3 times in the Missionary Training Center) Well I'm not really sure what happened to my mission experience because I either just skipped the bad parts and went straight to the endure to the end, or I'm just stuck in Honeymoon phase. Either way I love it!
You all are getting a beach condo?! That's so fun. Gongxi fazai :) (congratulations)
Haha Natalie asked me what my goals for my mission are, and well Natalie I have about a million goals... I have a goal for every aspect of my life divided into daily weekly monthly and Mission goals. I can tell you that my ultimate goal is to "invite others to come unto Christ by helping them receive the restored Gospel of Jesus Christ through Faith in the Savior Jesus Christ and His Atonement, repentance, BAPTISM, gift of the Holy Ghost, and enduring to the end." (Missionary purpose) I strive to have everything I do help with that purpose.
I had a cookie a couple months ago. (Taiwanese) and 4 months ago (chocolate chip)
Congratulations on getting the blue car Natalie!
Every morning during personal study I always spend some time reading the Book of Mormon, most times I also read other scriptures, often study for the benefit of our investigators.
How is Nathan affording all these cool adventures? And can I go on some with him later?
Well things here in Taiwan Huwei are amazing. We're seeing a lot of miracles. One thing I learned recently is how weak man is. We as humans are weak. Almost everyone is captivated by something, that we personally cannot break from. We are weak. We need our Father in Heaven, you need your Heavenly Father. Fall to your knees and plead with him. Plead to have strength, plead to have power, plead for forgiveness. You are weak, but He is strong. Put an end to your pride and plead with your Father in Heaven with full purpose of heart, and it will be given you.
I love you.
-Elder Tate
Tang zhanglao

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Jared 6-6

Hello Family!
Mom you should know far better by now to think that the painting people would actually be finished anytime when they said they would be. For example, you had 2 sons that said they would take off the paint of your banister, and well, we're still working on that one. :P
Haha yes mother I could imagine that exactly how Heavenly Father thinks sometimes. Of course He would be more than willing to go on a walk with you at 6 in the morning, without any kind of complaining :)
Good for Natalie, and he choir program, how was her little party? And why dis the girls party go till midnight? Everyone knows the Holy Ghost goes to bed at 11! That's so fun that Miranda got to have a big party like that, did she have fun? Miranda did you have fun?
And of course everyone had fun playing with my old toys, did they go crazy on the little wobbler?
I wish the best of luck to the Weylands, I will definitely include them in my prayers, and if all else fails, Taiwanese realestate is actually quite a good deal, especially if you're looking for a hut on a mountain ;)
Everything here is doing amazingly. Elder Boyer and I have really been working hard. We've been focussing on working with the members in our ward a lot more, and as a result members this week have provided 17 friends and family members that missionaries will be contacting and sharing the gospel with. Our recent convert Liu2 Yuan2 Ji2 has really become active in missionary work. He almost everyday accompanies our lessons, and he's brought a number of investigators to church. It really is a blessing to see the gospel work through the hands of ordinary members. Mom I would testify to you that the best way to help your friend is to help her be active in God's church. (is she a member? I don't think so...) help her to be baptized, and watch as the Lord fulfills His promise being born again, and eventually spotless before the Father at the last day. I love this church, I love this Gospel. It brings people purpose, it brings people hope, but best of all, this Gospel brings people salvation.
I love you,
Elder Tate
Tang zhi qin zhanglao

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Jared goes to Costco

Hello!
Guess what I did today?! I went to Cosco! It was awesome. Is there a cosco by our house? Yeah sure, it was only like an hour bike ride there, then another hour back. but it was amazing! We ate pizza! (We never eat pizza) and I bought cosco muffins and a giant thing of chocolate milk, and my companion bought some brownie mix! its amazing... My companion has a membership card, and we all spent at least 500 kuai each. But it was so worth it :)
Our investigators are really good. We have a lot of people looking to be baptized on the day right before move call (move call is when some people change locations, and most likely I'll be moving next move call). Let me tell you about them:

You dixiong and his girlfriend zhang jiemei. Unfortunately these 2 live together, but they graduate from college on the 11th, and hoping they will get baptized and confirmed on the 18th right before going home.

Yang dixiong - he's a member referall from an inactive family that is coming back. He personally has a pretty sad past, with a job that overworks him. He has a strong desire to repent and be baptized, and is in the process of quiting smoking.

Guo bao yuan dixiong- I know I'm not supposed to play favorites, but if I were forced to.... it'd probably be him. He is a ten year old boy that self contacted us, rode his bike a half hour for our first meeting, has befriended everyone in his primary class, goes to a ton of other activities, but best of all, he wants to grow up to be a samurai warrior! It is so much fun spending time with him. :)

Then a handful of others that we are hoping will hit their goals for being baptized while I'm still here in the blessed land of taiping.
Elder Boyer and I are working hard and really seeing th blessings from it. Again we had 6 investigators attend church, it is such a blessing to see the fruits of your labor, but I know this is all the Lord's work. Lately we've received a lot of training on working with the ward, and honestly it is paying off. 4 of the six investigators this week we personally brought, or otherwised taken care of by the ward. Our ward is really doing some amazing things lately, I've seen a number of less actives come back to church, and our 10 year old bao yuan investigator has been taken under the wing of an amazing family in the ward. I realized that what the Lord asks of the members of the church is not to just occassionally accompany the missionaries lessons, or help them when they are at church, but he expects the members to incorporate these people into their lives. I've really seen how much of a difference it makes when members sacrifice, and imply these brothers and sisters in their lives. I know that as you, my friends and family back at home really sacrifice for the missionaries, and more importantly for their investigators you will see the work back in wards start to explode, and really see the Lord watching over your personal lives as well. So, would you all be willing to make sacrifices and do something different for the missionaries, and they're investigators?
I love you. I know that our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ lives. 2 thousand years ago he died on the Cross, 3 days later he resurrected and about 1800 years after that he once again came down to Earth, and appeared to a young man looking for truth. This is the greatest message in the world, Share IT!
Love,
Elder Tate
Tang Zhanglao